How to promote positive energy in your life

Being part of the human race in itself can be challenging and a tough reason for existing. Trying to find your place in the world where the law of "survival of the fittest" is a reality, is even more daunting. The need to survive is paramount to our existence. If this is not embraced positively, it can result in all sorts of negative reactions that can make us feel unsure about ourselves and question the reason for our existence.

From the moment we make our debut entry into the world via the birth canal, our survival instincts become apparent. We have to learn how to use our lungs to breathe and make that resounding cry for the midwives to know that we are alive.

As we go through the phase of being a baby to growing into a toddler, we are faced with the challenge of fittng into the world around us by developing survival instincts and essential learning skills through movement, observation and speech. We pick ourselves up when we fall, look up to our loved ones for reassurance with a smile and persevere without fear of failure.

The most important thing is that in our early years of development there is little that deters us. When we stumble and fall we don't wallow in failure or crawl into a corner and hide. We use our inherent positive nature to pick ourselves up and have another go.

As we grow up in our years, we learn more about the world, life becomes more complex and more demanding. Our challenges increase and threaten to control our survival instincts, which results in negative energy flooding into our lives. Negative energy brings self doubt, failure, and fear. It also holds us prisoner in our own way of thinking. The strong minded are able to rise above these challenges, whilst the mentally weak drown in their pool of self pity and misery.

What we need to establish is that life is not always easy. Solutions to problems are not always handed to us on a silver platter. Everything in life was created in pairs. The good comes with the bad, success does not come without failure nor does sunshine come without rain. The good news is that this life is ours and we can overcome the pitfalls in our lives. We have been created with inherent survival instincts to empower us with a positive attitude to overcome these challenges. The power of positive thinking.

Believe in yourself. Develop a positive attitude about yourself. Positive energy stems from all that is good from within yourself and that you surround yourself with. This is the start of the way forward. Empower yourself with what is positive and good about your existence and focus your positive energy on being your number one fan. Learn to appreciate yourself. You are not a mistake of creation, there is a reason and purpose for your existence. The purpose is to make a difference by believing in you and your abilities to survive the storms that come your way. Everyone was born with special qualities. Learning not to crumble in the midst of difficulties is of the essence. Knowing that you have the power to face these difficulties will give you the strength to stand tall and be proud of your achievements. This requires self belief. If you believe in yourself, others will believe in you too. Once you are able to find this balance, you will feel more positive about yourself and your ability to take on what life throws at you. Remember the way you feel about yourself reflects in your aura and others perception of you.

Smile a lot and find a reason to be happy. There is a lot in life that we take foregranted. We focus our energy so much on acquiring material wealth in our quest for happiness, that we forget the very basic things that can make us happy; the sun, a smile, the sound of the early birds... Find time to escape to the country side, where the evironment is not polluted with the constant buzzing of phones, the drone of car engines or roadworks. Close your eyes and allow yourself to soak in the peace and the quiet of your surroundings. Let the little insignificant things such as the chirping of the birds, the blue sky or the endless lush green grass remind you of how great it is to be alive. Happiness comes from within. If you are able to tap into the positive reason for your existence, you will lead a happy life inspite of the challenges you are faced with.

Fear not. Human beings create fear. Life is shrouded in a lot of mystery and the unknown. Having no control over realties such as the future creates fear in us. Fear is a result of our insecurities and our own human weakness. Fear eats into our minds and erodes our sense of reasoning and our ability to conquer. Fear makes us defensive. It conceals our real self and causes us to retaliate when people point out our weakness. Fear keeps us distant from others and prevents us from being honest. It makes us want to take control and destroy. A typical example being the person who bullies. Bullies prey on people because they are wrapped in their own fear of failure and negative energy.

Fear causes regression.To conquer your fear and replace it with positive energy you need to come face to face with your fear and confront it. Ask yourself why and what your reasons for being afraid are. Go to the root cause of this fear and address it. If you are overwhelmed by the enormity of your fear, ask a family member, friend or professional to support you. If you believe in God, pray about your fears and ask him to give you the strength to overcome the fear. Others choose to meditate over issues that affect them.

Write down a list of things that don't make you happy. Writing down what doesn't make us happy is a great step towards facing, addressing and acknowledging your challenges. Don't be in denial. Are your challenges emotional, physical or mental? If your challenges require professional help, speak to someone who can advice you. Make use of advice columns if you don't particularly fancy a face to face approach. Talk to a family member or a close friend about what you are going through. Remember a problem shared is a problem halfed. Talking about your challenges eases the burden on your shoulders. You feel lighter knowing that you have support from someone who cares. Talk to God about the things that don't make you happy (again if you believe in God this works wonders if you have faith). You feel stronger and geared up to take the challenge by the horn and face it full on without crumbling. Knowing that you can do deal with your issues via communication is a turning point towards positive energy in your life.

Make use of positive words in your speech. Focus on the use of positive language in your life. Phrases such a I can, Yes I am able, I have the strength, I believe in myself, I can do it, anything is possible...all these are healthy positive phrases which feed healthy thoughts into our minds and translate into achievable goals.

Enhance your physical and mental well being. Engage in physical activities that will bring you physical satisfaction. Enrol in a gym, go for walks when the weather is favourable, go swimming, hiking, camping. Embrace the outdoor life. When you focus some of your mental energy on achieving physical wellness you tend to feel good about yourself and feel more able to embrace the challenges life has to offer. One of my very close friends is a full time working mother of three. Outside her 9-5 job she works as a fitness instructor. I always commend her on her strength and her ability to take on so much. She said to me her life as a fitness instructor charges her with a positive energy that makes it possible for her to look at her life's problems in a different light. Being a fitness instructor is a kind of therpay for her. Fitness enables her to see her problems as temporary obstacles that can be overcome.

Do something nice for someone. A smile weighs more than a thousand words. Find time to visit an ageing neighbour. You don't have to do much. Just sitting in their company and watching their favourite day time TV with them whilst sipping a cup of tea can be more than they could ask for and feel them with such deep appreciation of your selflessness. This positive feeling of appreciation creates in you a feeling of self worth and inner joy.

Arrange to visit the paediatric department in a children's hospital of your choice. Spend time with the children there. They are strong in mind and spirit and you will be amazed how their positive energy will tap into the goodness in you. They are a source of inspiration because they are fighters even when their little bodies are wrought with pain and things look bleak. Read to them, play with them. The smiles of gratitude on their little faces knowing that you have spent time to make their day special gives a sense of self worth and satisfaction. It will leave such a positive lasting impression on you, knowing that you have been able to touch someone's life positively.

Surround yourself with positive people Friends and family are such an important factor of our existence. We feed off the love of each other. The blood ties of a family should never be underestimated. They are strong and give us comfort in times of our struggles. People who emanate positive energy will encourage you and support you. They will praise you and not judge you, they will spur you on and not condemn you. They will offer emotional support when you are at the lowest ebb in your life. They are like a blanket of warmth which keeps you warm when the weather is too cold to handle.

Take care of Self Most important of all is to take care of yourself no matter what. Embrace the world and the good things it has to offer. Don't run away from your problems because you can overcome them no matter what. Some problems take time to be resolved depending on their gravity, others are easily dealt with. The most important thing to remember is that obstacles are like pot holes in a road. We fall into them but we can always get out of them, by moving on. Life is not as complex as we make it seem. Life is simple if we avoid entangling ourselves in more than we can take on. One step at a time. My french speaking sister will add "petit a petit" (little by little).

Life is wonderful you know. We are well and truly blessed in more ways than we may ever know.